Lately, I’ve been on a journey of rediscovering my femininity.
And when I say femininity, I’m not talking about wearing more dresses, speaking softer, or learning how to get a man to take care of you. I’m talking about something much deeper.
I’m talking about learning how to slow down. Receive. Rest. Set boundaries. Trust myself. Be present. And stop feeling like I have to carry everything all the time.
As a woman who is constantly building, working, solving problems, making decisions, and figuring out what’s next, that has NOT always come naturally to me.
I know how to get things done.
But I’m learning that being able to get everything done and believing you have to do everything are two very different things.
That’s part of why I’m so excited to be working with Wellspring Wellness Retreats and joining them in Mexico. The timing feels almost too perfect because so much of what they teach is connected to a journey I’m already experiencing myself: learning how to live in my femininity.
And I’m realizing that femininity isn't necessarily something we need to learn from scratch.
Sometimes we need to remember it.
Three Things I’m Learning About Femininity
1. Rest is not a reward.
Whew.
I have spent a lot of my life treating rest like something you earn after everything is finished.
But when is everything ever finished?
There will always be another email, another idea, another problem, another person who needs something, another goal.
I’m learning that rest has to be part of my life—not the prize I get when life finally stops happening.
There is power in knowing when to move, but there is also power in knowing when to be still.
2. Boundaries can be feminine.
This one changed the way I think about softness.
Being feminine doesn't mean being endlessly accommodating.
It doesn't mean saying yes when you mean no. It doesn't mean ignoring your own needs to keep everyone else comfortable. And it definitely doesn't mean allowing people unlimited access to you.
You can be loving and have boundaries.
You can be nurturing and say no.
You can be soft without being easily manipulated.
Sometimes protecting your peace is one of the most loving things you can do for yourself.
3. Receiving is just as important as giving.
A lot of women know how to give.
We give our time. Our energy. Our advice. Our love. Our resources. Our attention.
But receiving?
That's different.
Can you accept a compliment without minimizing it?
Can someone help you without you immediately trying to repay them?
Can you allow someone else to handle something?
Can you experience joy without wondering what you should be doing instead?
I'm realizing that receiving is something I have to practice.
And maybe that's part of femininity too—understanding that everything doesn't have to be chased, controlled, managed, or earned.
Some things can simply be received.
Maybe We Aren't Becoming. Maybe We're Returning.
That's the part of this journey that has been most interesting to me.
I'm not trying to become some completely different version of myself.
I'm still ambitious. I'm still driven. I'm still going to build. I'm still going to have big ideas and probably attempt entirely too many things at once. 😂
But I'm learning that strength and softness don't have to compete.
I can build and rest.
Lead and receive.
Be powerful and nurturing.
Have boundaries and still have a huge heart.
Maybe femininity isn't about performing womanhood correctly.
Maybe it's about creating enough space to hear yourself again.
That's what makes this next chapter with Wellspring Wellness Retreats so meaningful to me.
I'm not watching someone else's journey from the outside.
I'm on the journey too.
And as I prepare for Mexico, I'm excited to keep learning, unlearning, slowing down, and discovering what living in my femininity actually looks like for me.
Maybe somewhere along the way, you'll rediscover a little bit of yours too.
Wellspring Wellness Retreats — Redefining the Lost Art of Femininity.
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